Phase 1
Pre-reception (60 minutes before guests arrive)
Coordinator + venue captain final walk-through
EssentialConfirm table layout matches the seating plan, escort cards or chart in place, gift table set up, signage out, AV tested.
Vendors complete setup
EssentialFlorist finishes centrepieces, DJ tests sound, photographer sets up reception lights, caterer confirms timing.
MC briefing
EssentialRun the MC through the running order, names and pronunciations, song cues, speech order, and any in-jokes the couple wants flagged.
Sound check
EssentialMicrophone level for speeches, music volume during meal vs dancing, DJ booth lighting, any speeches needing lapel mic.
Final headcount confirmed with caterer
EssentialTotal cover, dietary marker count, kid meals, vendor meals.
Phase 2
Cocktail hour (60-90 minutes — couple is doing portraits)
Guests arrive + canapes served
EssentialWait staff circulate canapes. Bar opens. Background music at low-medium volume.
Direct guests to entertainment
ImportantPhoto booth, lawn games, signature cocktail station, slideshow. Keeps energy up while couple is away.
Coordinator manages couple's portrait timing
ImportantRadio check with photographer. Aim to have couple back 10-15 minutes before grand entrance.
Quietly seat anyone who wants to settle in
Nice to haveOlder guests, parents of small kids — let them find their seats early.
Phase 3
Grand entrance + welcome (15 minutes)
Coordinator gathers guests inside + seated
Essential5 minutes before entrance, MC asks guests to take their seats.
Wedding party announced
ImportantMC announces wedding party in pairs to walk-in song. 30 seconds per pair.
Couple grand entrance
EssentialMC pauses, music shifts, couple enters to their chosen song. 60-90 seconds.
Welcome speech
ImportantCouple, parent, or MC — 2-3 minutes thanking guests and kicking off the meal.
MC invites guests to start the meal
EssentialCue caterer to begin entree service.
Phase 4
Dinner block (60-90 minutes)
Entree served
ImportantCouple often circulates between courses to greet tables. Background music at conversational volume.
Speeches between entree + main
ImportantBest man, maid of honour, parent. 4-7 minutes each MAX. MC introduces each speaker, manages timing, leads applause + toasts.
Mains served + couple eats
EssentialMC holds the room. Couple sits down and actually eats — 15 minutes minimum.
Dietary + special meals double-checked
EssentialWait staff confirm allergens with the couple's nominated guests. Mistakes here can land in hospital — verify.
Background music transitions
Nice to haveDinner music gradually shifts toward upbeat as dessert approaches. DJ pre-plans this.
Phase 5
Cake + first dance (20 minutes)
MC calls cake cutting
ImportantCouple to cake table. Cut a small slice. Photographer captures the moment. Cake then taken backstage to be cut + served as dessert or supper.
First dance
ImportantCouple takes the floor. MC announces. Photographer signals when guests can join — usually 60-90 seconds in.
Parent dances (optional)
Nice to haveBride + parent, then groom + parent. Or skip — many couples now do.
Dance floor opens
ImportantDJ shifts to upbeat opener. MC invites everyone to the floor.
Phase 6
Dancing + party (90-180 minutes)
DJ manages energy curve
ImportantBuild for 30 minutes, sustain for 60+, leave 15 minutes of slow songs at the end.
Bouquet toss (optional, often skipped)
Nice to haveIf doing, MC announces. 5 minutes. Most couples now skip — it can feel dated.
Late-night snack served
Nice to have90 minutes into dancing. Pizza, sliders, or something hand-held. Optional but loved.
Couple checks in with each other
ImportantDance together for one slow song. Steal 5 quiet minutes. The day is almost done.
Phase 7
Send-off + close-down
Last call announced by MC
Essential15 minutes before bar close. Final drinks, last songs requested.
Send-off moment
ImportantSparkler tunnel, confetti, or just a hug-line at the door. MC organises guests if doing a tunnel.
Vendor payments distributed
EssentialCoordinator or family member hands envelopes to each vendor before they leave.
Personal items packed
EssentialDecor, gifts, cards, leftover cake, signage. Most venues require everything out by midnight.
Couple departs
Nice to haveHotel, Airbnb, or home. Order pizza. The day is officially done.
Frequently asked questions.
Usually the venue coordinator or your hired day-of coordinator owns the document. The MC works from a simplified version. Photographer + DJ get their own cue sheets pulled from it. The couple should NOT be running the sheet — that defeats the point.
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