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Elopement Planning Checklist

An elopement is not running away. It is choosing to focus on what matters: the two of you, your vows, and the moment. Whether it is just the two of you or a handful of your closest people, this checklist covers everything you need for a meaningful, stress-free elopement.

Updated for 2026

23 tasks

3-6 months before

Define your elopement vision

Essential

Just the two of you? Parents? 10 friends? Mountain, beach, city hall, or backyard? Decide the scale and setting.

Choose your location

Essential

Consider accessibility, weather, permit requirements, and how the backdrop will photograph.

Check legal requirements

Essential

You still need a legal ceremony. Research licence requirements, witnesses, and any waiting periods.

Book a celebrant

Essential

Even elopements need a legal officiant. Some locations have on-site options.

Book an elopement photographer

Essential

Many photographers offer 2-3 hour elopement packages. Their photos will be the centrepiece of your memories.

Set a budget

Important

Elopements can cost $1,000-10,000 depending on location, travel, and how you celebrate after.

1-2 months before

Buy or choose your outfits

Essential

Dress up, dress down, or anything in between. Wear something that makes you feel incredible.

Apply for marriage licence

Essential

Check your local processing times and any required documentation.

Write your vows

Essential

This is the heart of your elopement. Take your time and be honest.

Book accommodation

Important

Make the night special. A boutique hotel, cabin, or Airbnb with a view.

Plan a celebration dinner

Nice to have

Just the two of you at a special restaurant, or a small dinner with your guests.

Get any permits

Important

National parks, beaches, and some public locations require ceremony permits.

Arrange flowers (minimal)

Nice to have

A single bouquet and a boutonniere. Simple and beautiful.

1 week before

Confirm photographer and celebrant

Essential

Send them the location pin, timing, and any special requests.

Check the weather forecast

Important

Have a backup location or embrace the conditions.

Prepare your vows

Essential

Print or write them neatly. Practise reading them out loud.

Pack everything

Essential

Outfits, rings, licence, vows, ID, and a phone charger.

Tell the people you want to tell

Nice to have

Before or after, your choice. Some couples announce the same day.

Elopement day

Get ready together or apart

Nice to have

There are no rules. Do what feels right for the two of you.

Exchange vows

Essential

The whole point. Be present. Look at each other.

Sign the paperwork

Essential

Make it legal. Your celebrant will guide you through this.

Take photos

Important

Let your photographer capture you being yourselves. Adventure portraits, quiet moments, and the joy.

Celebrate

Essential

Champagne, dinner, dancing in the kitchen, or a hike. However you want.

Frequently asked questions

Is an elopement a real wedding?

Absolutely. An elopement is a legal marriage ceremony. The only difference is the scale. You still exchange vows, sign the licence, and begin your marriage.

How much does an elopement cost?

$1,000-10,000 depending on location, travel, photography, and how you celebrate. You can elope at a courthouse for under $500 or fly to Iceland for $10,000+.

Do we need witnesses?

It depends on your location. Most Australian states require two witnesses. Some US states require none. Check your local legal requirements.

Should we tell people beforehand?

Your choice. Some couples tell parents in advance, some announce after, and some share the news gradually. There is no right answer.

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